Sunday, December 14, 2025

If You’re Feeling a Little Lonely This Christmas, This Message Is for You My personal warm note to all of you — yes, you — and you and you … as we step into the last 10 days before Xmas … Press enter or click to view image in full size Press enter or click to view image in full size Press enter or click to view image in full size Photos on my iPhone walking the streets of New York City … Every December, the world puts on glitter. Cities hang their lights. Shops play the same 12 songs. People buy gifts, bake cookies, and pretend they’re not exhausted. Instagram becomes a winter postcard. And yet… behind all the sparkle, so many people carry quiet things: the loss of someone they loved the fear of another year beginning the ache of loneliness in a season meant for togetherness the pressure to feel happy when their heart is tired or simply the exhaustion of a world that hasn’t been easy lately If that’s you — you are not alone. Not even for one moment. Press enter or click to view image in full size Photo by Drew Walker on Unsplash So let me say something simple and true: You deserve seasonal greetings and joy this Christmas. Not perfect joy. Not Hallmark-movie joy. Just a soft moment of peace that reminds you: you’re still here, and that matters. This holiday season isn’t about perfection. It’s about people. Not the people on commercials. Not the ones with matching pajamas. Not the influencers with 9-foot trees. It’s about: the friend who texts, “Did you eat? Lets meet for a hot cuppa” … the neighbor who smiles at you from across the street … the stranger who patiently holds the elevator as you rush … the coworker who makes you laugh at 11 AM or midnight … the child who reminds you of magic and Santa is real … the unexpected kindness of strangers, lost members of family and friends that appear when you least expect … Christmas isn’t about having everything. It’s about noticing the small things that make everything bearable. Press enter or click to view image in full size Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash And New Year? Oh, that’s just life giving you a restart button. You don’t have to fix your whole life. Just take one brave step. One small dream. One act of kindness. One decision that makes you feel a little more you. The world won’t transform in a day. But you can. And sometimes that’s enough. Here my holiday wishes for you all — my 6,021 followers on Medium and Facebook Pages/Groups, LinkedIn…) reading this: May you laugh more than you expect and surprise yourself with magic. May you feel loved in strange and unique ways. May you forgive yourself for all the things you didn’t finish. May you remember the people who made your year softer and loving. May you find joy in those small corners of the world. May you rest without that guilty feeling of happiness … May your heart feel lighter than it did last month ... May you enter the New Year 2026 with new hope — even a tiny one. Because tiny hopes have built entire miracles. And if you’re lonely today… Remember — here’s the truth: You are part of something bigger happening ... You are connected to thousands of hearts here … You were brave enough to survive another year. Happy 2026 ! And you are worthy of joy — in every season. So hang a light. Buy a chocolate cookie. Laugh at something stupid and hug a child. Write something messy and discover beauty of life ... Celebrate exactly the way you want to celebrate…. Because the holiday season doesn’t belong to perfection. It belongs to you. Merry Christmas, dear readers. Happy almost-New Year. We’re walking in companionship into 2026 together … Press enter or click to view image in full size Photo taken by writer this past Spring 2025 … welcoming by yellow daffadies on the streets of New York. “O, wind … if winter comes, can spring be far behind?” Percy Bysshe Shelley’s poem “Ode to the West Wind” — meaning that difficult times (winter) Percy Bysshe Shelley’s poem “Ode to the West Wind” — meaning that difficult times (winter) are always followed by brighter, more hopeful periods (spring), symbolizing renewal and the inevitable end to hardship.

Tuesday, January 25, 2022

VOWW MEMBER MARY CAIRNS FROM PHILADELPIA (USA)

AMERICAN MARY CAIRNS' WORK AT PARDADA PARDADI, INDIA. 2014 

Meeting Mary Cairns from Kennett Square in Pennsylvania, PA, she was the Development Director of Pardada Pardadi Educational Society, Annupshahr, Uttar Pradesh, India,

I asked: "What was the most exciting job you have ever done ?" 

She replied "raising two healthy, successful children into responsible adults, my career was more of an active community volunteer and small business owner.  My hobbies are reading (most recently: The Blue Sweater), and travel, yoga, doing my part to make a difference in the world ..."

What is the most exciting thing the Internet has to offer ?  "Access to everything I need to know about the world."

How do you feel you can become part of "be the change" happening around the world? She replied: "By bringing health care to a village in India where there was none". 

She spoke of her trip to continue working at Pardada Pardadi. 

"On Easter Sunday, as I began to write about my most recent trip to Pardada Pardadi, I found that I struggled for words that would be adequate in describing this experience in India. I have had so many friends, family and supporters asking about my time there, so it’s time to find the words. My heart is always with the girls at Pardadi Pardadi Educational Society - who count among the most needy girls in our world. Their hope for a bright future is the result of everyone who cares enough to provide support for their education, and for the incredible work being done at PPES". 

"So many memories swirl about in my head as I reflect back over the weeks there. I have found that processing my experiences has become more challenging, as I have been given the privilege of delving deeper into the lives of the people, and witness so many unthinkable things that are a part of life in the village. 

"From our arrival in Delhi, until my departure, every day provided the opportunity to live amongst, and love, so many wonderful girls and their families, and the staff, who have allowed me to be a part of their lives. The warmth and hospitality, along with the many incredible experiences that most in the western world will never experience, can also be too much at times. Yet, I know that God gives me all that I need to continue the work I have been called to. 

"The first week was filled with 5 days of medical camps, with two US and three Indian doctors. This incredible team was able to see hundreds of patients/ villagers during five days of camps in two of the very poorest local villages, as well as at the school. 

"Bringing medical care to the people in this region is huge, as virtually no care exists in this region. Students and staff alike were able to see doctors, and be treated for a vast array of conditions. Lots of antibiotics were distributed for the many infections, mostly the result of poor hygiene. Our dermatologist, was able to treat so many skin conditions that will never be seen in the US, most of which could be prevented with simple hygiene. The people tend to have little concept of what that entails. We hope that through school and community health and hygiene education programs, villagers can begin to practice safe hygiene, thus improve their health." 

She explained: "Dr. Sheehan and Fanelli in the school Health Center, working at the Medical Clinic, village scene International Medical Relief- IMR will be returning to PPES in June. Last year, 22 US medical personnel saw 2500 villagers during 6 days of medical camps. PPES looks forward to hosting IMR this June, when they return to bring medical care to the villagers. 

$20,000 is needed for the Health Center, nurse’s salary and two doctor’s salaries. Two doctors come to the school on Saturday’s to see girls and villagers. 

"To summarize some of the incredible moments ~ the distribution of 2200 pair of undies, all donated in the US. Many of our girls have never had a pair of new panties, so this was an exciting time. Thank you to all who made this project the great success it was. 

Last summer, our students appreciated receiving over 1000 bras from the US.

"There were 120 preschoolers receiving their first combs.  This included a hygiene lesson about combs being your own, and they are not to be shared. Lice, bugs and scalp infections are a challenge at the school. I brought treatment for lice to the school to be used by our school nurse. Again, it was fun to watch! "

A big thank you to Soap Box Soaps for donating 1800 bars of soap to the school, for girls to take home, and for use at the school. Soap, and handwashing, has decreased illness significantly. 

"A big thank you to the students who worked with the doctors at the medical camps. This may change the course of their futures, as they consider a nursing as a career. 

"The confidence and leadership abilities demonstrated is gratifying, knowing we are truly making a difference. A simple, “I’m so proud of you”, “you’re doing a great job”, are words they may never have heard before. A great smile makes my work so gratifying. Solar lantern project with Sam. Families who have their daughters in school receive lanterns. 85% of girls still do not attend school. 

"Eyeglasses, a newer concept at the school - 22 of our girls visited the local eye ophthalmologist. 60 % of our girls are malnourished by WHO standards, which causes problems with vision. Though some of our girls now have eyeglasses, their eyesight will continue to be problematic until their nutrition improves.  The school needs $12,000 for the Nutrition Enhancement program, which will improve the overall health of our girls. Girls proudly showing off their new eyeglasses.

"My several village visits where I experienced my first highlights of this trip was the opportunity to visit many of the villages, and the homes of our girls. This experience ranged from excitement to heartbreak. Word spreads quickly that we are in the village, and before long I felt like the pied piper walking the streets, accompanied by children, as we weave in and out of houses. 

"Among the images, forever etched in my mind, is this little girl who is so extremely malnourished, likely to die from the condition. This is a common reality in the village, not just a picture in a magazine.  

"I met with Pooja’s mother and her 6 year old sister. Pooja, 8 years old and a Class 1 student, was recently killed by a poisonous snake, as she swept in her home. The snake still roams, as Hindu beliefs prevent killing anything. I cannot imagine the fear of her family and villagers, knowing the snake is still out there and can strike down another life. "The pain of the mother losing a child is the same the world over, so meeting with Pooja’s mother was heartbreaking. I think of Archna, her 6 year old sister, having lost her big sister and best friend. 

Her cousin, Kajill, pictured here, also attends PPES. "Pooja’s mother, sister, Archna, and cousin, Kajill. The home where Pooja was killed. Archna’s sandals. Elsa, our school nurse and my interpreter, took me to Manisha’s house to meet her 95 year old, blind grandmother. Manisha has no parents, and her role in life is to care for her grandmother, in one room, infested with rats at night. They count among the most vulnerable. I am left to wonder what will happen to Manisha when her grandmother dies. Will she be “married” off, sold into the brothel life? Beautiful Manisha with her grandmother. What will become of her? 

"My tour guides. Anjali and Chamma…they were a delight as they accompanied me for a day of village tours. They were thrilled to carry my backpack, notebook and cameras. It has been wonderful watching these girls grow since 2010. Their father and grandfather are in prison, so the children and mothers are on their own. It is great fun being with them, as they take pride in taking me to the homes of our students. 

"Polio continues to impact lives in rural India, despite what WHO reports. 

I have met too many young people who have polio, including students at PPES, with no treatment available, nor devices to improve their mobility. Typhoid continues to kill children in the village, as does cholera, malaria and many other diseases long eradicated in the US. $26,000 is needed to vaccinate our girls, as the Indian government, continues to nothing for these children. 

Victims of polio A pencil of an Indian school child Girls writing to their sponsors 

There is a vast scale of conditions for living in dire poverty. The narrow roads, too small for a vehicle, the intense heat of the sun, the animals living in the homes(some just one room, with a buffalo or two),while the children and adults roam barefoot, the dust and smoke in the air, the stench of garbage piles can be too much at times, and the condition of the children, malnourished, in rags or nothing at all, so very dirty-are all witnessed on these visits. Though all of our girls live in the dire of poverty, some live better than others. 

 This might mean the house has a toilet(outdoor, squat), a water source, and a dirt floor swept clean. It also might mean the family has a door on the house. The women and children are so vulnerable, with no protection. 

Child sponsorship- $40/month is what it costs to educate a child at Pardada Pardadi. This includes 3 meals a day, 2 uniforms/shoes/sweater, transportation(bicycle or bus), textbooks and health care. Girls waiting to be sponsored… 

Muskan listening to letter from her sponsor. Girls watching a video of Nash on the computer. Elsa, myself and Bharti. Every day at Pardada Pardadi is an incredible experience ! 

To witness success, confidence and self-esteem, as our girls learn that they deserve to be treated as equals to boys, to have dreams and actually live them out, and to change the face of India for their own daughters, is what keeps me coming back. 

We cannot do this without your help. Please visit education4change.org to make a donation today.  Or send a check to: PPES 321 Hillside Lane Kennett Square, PA 19348 - I can assure you that your donation will be well used, in the area that you see as the need you would like to support.

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